Note: If she was born in 1797 in Essex Co., VA she would be Sarah Benham’s daughter (unless Drury got his housekeeper pregnant).
1882 Death record says her parents were Drury & Dolly Fletcher. (SV-1563)
SV-149 pg 110 & SV-404 pg 354 say her name was Charlotte (Fletcher) Carter who was a widow who married Samuel Parsons
1850 Lee Co., VA Census (Ancestry.com): Thomas Parsons (25 VA) living in Dist. 31 with wife, Sarah (21 VA); Anna (1 VA); Charlotte Parsons (50 VA); Dolly Hunter (80 NC) and Samuel Carcy (4 KY).
1860 census lists her age as 70 implying birth ca 1790. (SV-1281)
1880 Lee Co., VA Census (Ancestry.com): James M. Bailey (23 VA) living in Crab Orchard with wife, Susan (21 VA); 2 sons: John (2 VA) and Alonzo E. U. (1/12 VA); mother-in-law, Margret Moore (55) and grandmother, Charlotte Parsons (89 VA).
1880 census lists her age as 89 implying birth ca 1791. (SV-1281)
Her Lee Co., VA death record says she was 85 yrs old and D/O Drewery (sic) Fletcher & Dolly. (SV-1004)
SV-277 claims she was born abt 1790 in NC
Died 3 June 1882 according to Lee Co., VA death Register. (SV-938)
Could she have been living with daughter, Nancy Jane Parsons Cress during latter part of Civil War as story by Barbara: Civil War Captain Hayes’ guerilla’s came through Cutshin area and destroyed much. He threatened to burn down the Cress house but Nancy Jane (Moma) quarrelled with him but grandma was timid and didn’t say anything. Or could it have been Barbara’s other grandmother, Charlotte Bausley?